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My boyfriend and I have been dating for two and a half years now. We're very serious, we've talked about marriage, finances, career goals, we spend most nights at each other's houses, and we routinely spend holidays with each set of parents. We've gone engagement ring shopping in the sense of finding out my style, but we haven't bought anything. Money is really tight right now, because I am in law school, and I racked up a bunch of credit card debt before school that is going to be a monster to pay off, in addition to my school loans from private undergrad. This is my question: a really lovely, privately-owned independent local jewelry store in town is going out of business and they're seriously discounting their inventory. I got some price quotes on engagement rings, and I went home and compared them to. They're actually really good prices we'd save about $ on a $ ring or so. I think this would be a great time to buy something like this, BUT I know he doesn't have the cash on hand, and I know he wants to pay cash beacuse he's super financially responsible. So what should I do? Should I tell him I went engagement-ring-shopping behind his back? He's very traditional, so I know he wants to surprise me, and wants to ask my dad's permission first, and all that stuff. Is it so out of line to push him a little? Or should we pass up this really good deal and wait until our situation is better? I don't know when we'd ever find prices like this again. It seems like a really great bargain to me but it's still more money than we have. I don't know what to do!
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